negotiation

NEGOTIATION


Negotiation is what you are forced to do when you can’t shoot someone over a disagreement. Even when they really deserve it. You used to be able to negotiate with your work, but back then there were Unions to back you up. Not that I’m saying Unions didn’t price themselves out of the market, but the way the pendulum has swung all the way back 150 years where you have no rights but to quit, and where the safety record is about as bad now as it was then, that is just as bad as Union greed and stupidity. The only difference between now and when the Robber Baron’s were leaving Chinese laborers in shallow graves next to railroad tracks was that back then the government had an official policy of ignoring it and now they have an official policy of paying multiple billions a year to run multiple agencies that price small companies out of the market through inefficient regulatory hurdles to protect the big boy monopolies and by giving carte blanch to those big player to slay with impunity with their blessing. So, nothing has changed except to protect the corporations that pay the most by actively bankrupting the competition. So, the government is not only corporations bitches, they willingly go along in the practice. Sad and pathetic.

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Speaking of sad and pathetic, how is your marriage? I’ve got another idea about how to work around your spouse not cooperating with prepping, but it is dangerous. I can’t be held responsible for any blowback this might cause, so proceed at your own risk. Put yourself into a position to re-negotiate your spousal contract. Of course, just because this worked for me doesn’t mean it will work for you, but at least it is an idea. And, I did kind of fall into this benefit ass backwards despite myself. So I’m not taking credit for it, I’m just reporting it. I really thought wife #4 was gone for good. She said many nasty things the last time she had left, whereas before we parted amicably. After she left, as the truck was shrieking in mechanical agony even after a professional toyed with it, I felt safe getting rid of the truck. I didn’t need to transport the wife into town, so why not just go 100% bicycle, right? Only later did I think it would be a repellant against her coming back ( it was a benefit, not a reason ). However, this did not deter her from proclaiming her undying love and express a desire to return. A short word on this relationship. As I’ve said before, we hate each other. But we hate everyone else much more. We have strong feeling for one another, but also have quite realistic outlooks. I know she just needed a place to live, she knew I was just trying to get into her shorts. But we still have a weird relationship nonetheless.

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There weren’t devious attempts at circumventing each others wishes, it was just that while restarting the relationship, the new reality had to be accepted. I’d retired the truck. Are you sure you still want to come back, being stuck at home? Yes. Okay, I’m $100 richer a month now, she’s more inconvenienced, and yet in the end we both win when we go underground and stay toasty warm in winter ( compared to freezing our asses off most of the time ), in part from the money saved. Could you swing something like this? If your relationship is in trouble anyway, partially due to the resources for preps issue ( because, at least in our estimation, things are getting life threatening ), would it be worth doing the break-up, changing your lifestyle, reconciliation thing? If you leave the bitch, jingle mail the home, move out to junk land and stockpile wheat, if she still wants to get back together it will have to be out there in the boonies with you. Yes, a female might have it easier, only needing to wave her scent around the ex-husband’s nose, but there is always risk. There is a change, remote though it may be, that he finds a randy survivalist gal. Then you are no good to him anymore. With a guy, your only advantage to entice the wife back is that you are a known factor. The evil she knows, as it were. You don’t have much to offer other than money, and just as there will always be a fem out there prettier and pretending to be willing in bed, so there will always be a guy out there making more money than you.

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Really, this has little chance of working unless your relationship is relatively sound. You need a foundation to fall back on, hard to do when each of you is just using the other. The issue is money, or lack thereof. If the issue is you can’t stand the sight of one another it will just fail again ( I’m not sure where I stand on that issue, I just pretend she wants to be with me, after all is said and done ). What I am proposing ends up being the excuse each of you needed to get the contentious transition done. She can shrug, and say she had no choice if she wanted to be with the man she loved ( if you are in the dog house, the excuse for getting back together is you are “the father of our children” ). He can say she forced him into taking drastic action to take the steps needed to buy real insurance for the family. Obviously, there are complications. If you legally separate, instead of this just being a trial separation, the guy can get screwed financially. This might be future fuel for arguments. Etc. Hey, nothing is perfect. It’s just food for thought. Most of us need a relationship. And all of us need to prepare for the Right Around The Corner Crap Storm. Drastic times call for drastic measures.

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